Wedding invitation wording - what's correct please?

[Weddingquestions]

Hi everyone, just wanted to ask those who are good at grammar/etiquette...

Can you say 'X and X would love you to join us to celebrate our marriage' or is it 'join us as we celebrate our marriage' or 'join us to celebrate our wedding'?

I read somewhere that it is not correct to say 'celebrate our marriage'.

It's a church ceremony then reception. Traditional but not super fancy. I didn't want to go with 'honour of your presence' as sounds too formal.

Any help appreciated! Thank you

 

[Newsenmum]

X and X would like to join your to celebrate their wedding

Or

you are invited to celebrate the marriage of X and X

 

[RosesAndHellebores]

X and y

Request the pleasure of your company

At their marriage

On

Saturday xth month 2024

At 2pm

At St Mary's and St Benedict
Address

And afterwards at blah venue

RSVP

 

[Coconutter24]

X and y

Request the pleasure of your company

At their marriage

On

Saturday xth month 2024

At 2pm

At St Mary's and St Benedict
Address

And afterwards at blah venue

RSVP

Seeing it wrote like this I’d say wedding.

You’re inviting people to your wedding not the marriage. It’s your wedding day you’re asking people to celebrate with you

 

[martinisforeveryone]

Congratulations OP, hope you have a lovely day.

I'm quite old skool, but if I was writing an invitation today I'd be less formal and say something like

You're invited to the marriage of X and X on -date-
at -venue-

Then celebrating afterwards at -wherever- until -time- (if you have a fixed end time)

Dress will be -semi formal/cocktail/whatever takes your fancy (this bit is optional if you think people need guidance)

We'd love you to join us if you can X and X
Please RSVP no later than -date- so we can formalise the numbers

Edit
Sorry other posts were made while I was typing.

Handwritten invitations sound really lovely, very personal. My DC told guests, no dress code, wear whatever you feel happy in. I don't think you have to use formal language at all. If you want anyone to proof read once you've decided post it up and get help x

 

[Weddingquestions]

Thank you everyone...I hadn't even noticed I'd changed from 3rd to 1st person! So, glad I asked for help

 

[Weddingquestions]

I think we'll go with your suggestion Roses. I was a bit wary of being formal as I am handwriting the invitations myself and because we are 'hosting' it ourselves, so didn't want to seem pretentious as it's not a very fancy do. But my own made-up wording muddles everything up!

 

[Weddingquestions]

Congratulations OP, hope you have a lovely day.

I'm quite old skool, but if I was writing an invitation today I'd be less formal and say something like

You're invited to the marriage of X and X on -date-
at -venue-

Then celebrating afterwards at -wherever- until -time- (if you have a fixed end time)

Dress will be -semi formal/cocktail/whatever takes your fancy (this bit is optional if you think people need guidance)

We'd love you to join us if you can X and X
Please RSVP no later than -date- so we can formalise the numbers

Edit
Sorry other posts were made while I was typing.

Handwritten invitations sound really lovely, very personal. My DC told guests, no dress code, wear whatever you feel happy in. I don't think you have to use formal language at all. If you want anyone to proof read once you've decided post it up and get help x

Thank you Martinis

Lots of good ideas...I just need to remember to use 'their' not 'our/us' if we're going with 'x and x'.

Wanted to try and incorporate guest names in too as I think it sounds more welcoming/personal.

I never knew wedding planning would be so complicated! (Nice though)

 

[martinisforeveryone]

Thank you Martinis

Lots of good ideas...I just need to remember to use 'their' not 'our/us' if we're going with 'x and x'.

Wanted to try and incorporate guest names in too as I think it sounds more welcoming/personal.

I never knew wedding planning would be so complicated! (Nice though)

Not at all it's important to you and special. Other people won't micro analyse though.

You could try something like

Dear A and B

We're getting married at -church- on -date- at -time- and would be very happy if you join us there, then to celebrate afterwards at -venue-

insert any other information you want to like, meal, BBQ, drinks and dancing, and the end time if you want people to know when to order taxis or whatever.
Same goes for any dress code info.

Then sign off with your names.

Or is that too informal? Personally I think informal and handwritten sit best together, but that might not be what you want.

The important things are to let people know where, when and timings so they can plan accordingly. Also make sure you put that RSVP date in because people can be very relaxed about replying and letting you know, when you actually need to do the planning.